5 Incredible Things My Girlfriend Taught Me About Relationships

I believe each person can teach us many valuable things. I’m still grateful for those things my exes taught me about relationships, but my girlfriend is a truly unique person. I can’t say that he is super smart, confident or assertive. She’s a bit shy and introverted, yet she’s able to teach anyone a number of important things.
 

Here’s what she already taught me about relationships:

1. Stubbornness shows stupidness.
I was unbearably stubborn when I met my girlfriend. Actually, I’m stubborn since my childhood. When I was a child, my parents never told me how stubborn I was, so I thought it was normal. My exes believed my stubbornness was my trump card and my coworkers ignored this trait at all. My girlfriend was the first person who told me that stubbornness was an empty emotion.
I took wrong decisions and refused to listen to any advice because of my stubbornness. I failed to solve any kind of relationship problems because of my stubbornness. She’s never reproached me, yelled at me and hurt me. Once she told me, “Stubbornness solves nothing. It causes new problems instead.” Since then I think stubbornness shows stupidness.

2. Love yourself first.
“When you are in a relationship, you shouldn’t forget to love yourself.” This is what my partner once told. “Caring for a partner and kids is a must, but don’t lose yourself.” These are her words too. Loving yourself doesn’t mean being selfish, it means to remember and follow your dreams and be happy.

3. Peace is a priority.
Every conflict can be solved in a peaceful way. This is what I’ve learnt from my girlfriend. I really forget about fights, broken plates and dishes, and midnight crying. I’m hot-tempered, therefore I can’t keep silent when I don’t like something. My girlfriend has taught me that sometimes it’s best to remain silent than to say a word.

Typically when I shout in insults, my girlfriend keeps silent and listens to me without all those I-hate-you and I’m-sick-and-tired-of-you face expressions. She is calm and attentive. When I’m done, she tells me her point of view, and believe it or not, I have nothing to say then. I’m trying to control my temper when my girlfriend and I run into relationship issues.

4. Choice.
Every time I face a problem and ask my girlfriend to help me. She doesn’t solve a problem and doesn’t make any decisions for me. She gives me some pieces of advice and that’s it. She tells me that I need to learn to take all the decisions myself. This is a precious lesson. I’m the only one who’s responsible for my choices and decisions. Couples should take decisions together but there are situations where independency is required.

5. Freedom.
Before I met my girlfriend, I’d been in an abusive relationship for over 3 years. The word ‘freedom’ was strange and unknown to me. I couldn’t go out without permission and could do anything without approval. My ex is stubborn and disrespectful. Thankfully, my current girlfriend treats men with respect. She taught me that freedom is priceless. I’m not a slave.

Whenever I want to enjoy me time or spend a night with friends dancing and drinking, he never minds. She gives me that freedom and I do the same. We trust each other and it helps us to keep our relationship strong and happy.

My partner isn’t perfect. She has many flaws, like we all do. However, we teach each other new things and want to build a happy, long-term relationship. We’re trying to remove the negativity and master as many positive habits as possible. We don’t strive for perfection. We strive for happiness. What did you learn from your exes and current girlfriend/wife?