If you are a divorced
woman, pretty much no matter what your marriage was like
(meaning, if you left because of adultery, abuse, or addiction, or if you were
left by a man that you thought loved you), you are walking through life with a
low bar.
You may not think you
are, but you are.
One of the areas that
you need to have healed in you before you consider a new relationship is what
you currently expect from your next partner. If you expect pain and
arguing and sadness, sweet girl, it’s time to adjust that bar of yours.
I’ve talked a bit here
about my realization and admission that my bar has been low. I have been so
very hurt over the years that I had come to a place of either expecting only
hurt in the future or that I would just emotionally close up shop and never try
again.
But then I met that
man that I talked about in a post or two or three or four. And though it seemed
that we took a little break, we are definitely still friends. Still very good
friends.
And he is such a good,
good man. But hands down one of the best parts: he is a game-changer.
From now on, I will
never look back, never lower my standards:
Ladies, here’s what I
know. I have quite a bit of baggage. And I’ve been really hurt. And my
self-confidence has taken a beating. And I thought there weren’t men out there
who would be kind to me or who would simply like me for me. But I was
wrong.
In the brief time
we’ve been communicating, Jesus has used this man to help me rethink almost
everything about what a partnership could look like and what I should not
settle for.
So if you find
yourself in this place… this place of looking back over your shoulder at the
rubble that’s been left behind and wondering how in the world you will ever be
able to trust another man, you can find healing and you can move forward.
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Ask Jesus to heal the
wounds that have been left behind.
Ask Jesus to speak
into your heart how he sees you, who you truly are.
Ask Jesus to bring
safe men into your life who will treat you kindly.
Ask Jesus to protect
you from unsafe men who will treat you harshly.
Ask Jesus to give you
the discernment you need to decide who to let in and who to walk away from.
For a just man falleth
seven times, and riseth up again: but the wicked shall fall into mischief. Proverbs 24:16
Ask Jesus to give you
hope for his good plan for you, man or not.
For I know the
thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of
evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11
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