1)
Use relationships to teach you how to be whole within.
Relationships aren’t about
having another person complete you, but coming to the relationship whole and
sharing your life interdependently. By letting go of the romantic ideal of
merging and becoming “one,”
2) See your partner for who he
or she really is.
The romantic tragedy occurs
when you view the person you are in love with as a symbol of what they have
come to represent, the idea of them. When you realize that
more often than not you don’t really know your partner, you begin to discover
who they are and how they change and evolve.
3) Be willing to learn from
each other.
The key is to see the other
as a mirror and learn from the reflection how you can be a better person. When
you feel upset, rather than blame your partner and point fingers, remain awake
to what has yet to be healed in yourself.
4) Get comfortable being
alone.
In order to accept that
love can’t rescue you from being alone, learn to spend time being with
yourself. By feeling safe and secure to be on your own within the framework of
relationship, you will feel more complete, happy, and whole.
5) Look closely at why a fight
may begin.
Some couples create
separateness by fighting and then making up over and over again. This allows
you to continue the romantic trance, creating drama and avoiding real intimacy.
If you become aware of what you fear about intimacy, you’ll have a better sense
of why you’re fighting—and likely will fight far less.
6) Own who you are.
We generally grasp at romantic
love because we’re yearning for something that is out of reach, something in
another person that we don’t think we possess in ourselves. Unfortunately, when
we finally get love, we discover that we didn’t get what we were looking for.
True love only exists by loving
yourself first. You can only get from another person what
you’re willing to give yourself.
7) Expand your heart.
One thing that unites us is
that we all long to be happy. This happiness usually includes the desire to be
close to someone in a loving way. To create real intimacy, get in touch with
the spaciousness of your heart and bring awareness to what is good within you.
8) Focus on giving love.
Genuine happiness is not
about feeling good about ourselves because other people love us; it’s more
about how well we have loved ourselves and others. The unintentional outcome of
loving others more deeply is that we are loved more deeply.
9) Let go of expectations.
You may look to things such
as romance and constant togetherness to fill a void in yourself. This will
immediately cause suffering. If you unconsciously expect to receive love in certain ways to avoid giving
that love to yourself, you will put your sense of security in someone else.
ALL THE BEST IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP…
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